Decide Vol. 010 – You are not a fire truck, decide to be patient

Ever made a decision faster than Usain Bolt runs the 100m and then regretted it? Yeah, me too.

Maybe you were persuaded by a silver-tongued salesperson, or the excitement of the moment blinded you to the potential downsides.

But let’s face it, we live in a world where everything moves at lightning speed.

We’re all in a rush to make decisions, and often end up with buyer’s remorse or project regret.

But what if we slowed down and took a moment to think things through?

It’s like the old saying goes: haste makes waste.

By being patient and considering all the factors, we can make better decisions that lead to happier outcomes.

I know, I know, you’re thinking ‘Why bother being patient in a world that’s all about instant gratification?’

Well, my friend, sometimes the best things in life are worth waiting for.

Here are 3 benefits of deciding to be patient:

1. Better Decision Quality

Taking the time to consider all the available options and weighing the pros and cons can help you make more informed decisions.

Rushing into a decision without considering the important points can lead to negative results.

By being patient and deliberate, you can increase the likelihood of making a decision which aligns with your values and goals.

Warren Buffett is a well-known investor who is famous for his patient and methodical approach to investing.

He takes the time to carefully analyse companies and their financials before making a decision to invest.

“The stock market is a device for transferring money from the impatient to the patient.”

Warren Buffett

By being patient, Buffet has been able to consistently make high-quality investment decisions.

These have led to his tremendous success.

Remember, the quality of your life is dependent on the quality of your decisions.

2. Reduced Stress

Making quick decisions under pressure can be stressful and anxiety-inducing. It’s easy to get overwhelmed and feel like you’re not making the right choice.

By being patient and giving yourself time to think things through, you can reduce the stress and anxiety that comes with making important decisions.

This can lead to a greater sense of clarity and confidence in your choices.

I used to think being patient meant sitting around doing nothing, but it’s a skill to be learnt and something you do.

“Patience is not passive; on the contrary, it is active;
it is concentrated strength.”

Edward Bulwer-Lytton

I’ve recognised that change takes time and it’s important to be patient and persistent in the face of obstacles.

You are not a fire truck. You are not rushing to put out a fire.

Slow down.

3. Improved Relationships

Impulsive decisions can lead to conflict and strained relationships when they affect others.

Taking the time to consider the impact of your decisions on others and communicating the impact can help build trust.

Everyone likes to be thought of and considered.

By being patient and thoughtful, you can ensure your decisions are respectful and considerate of others

All of which can lead to positive outcomes and stronger connections.

“We should not let an illusion of urgency force us to make decisions before we are ready.”

Nelson Mandela

I know when I hastily agree to plans with friends without consulting Kelly (my wife), it’s inconsiderate.

There is nothing wrong with going to a concert or spending the day in London.

Kelly is amazing, she is supportive and encourages me to do the things I want. Like, spending hours researching, writing and editing newsletters, for example 😉

Love is patient and love is kind.

It is always better to think of people you care about before making a decision which would affect them.

So, if I pause and let Kelly know the plans, get her involved and consider her opinion then I’m being kind. If not, I’m being unkind and selfish.

Being kind is a great quality to have, I aspire to be kind and patient, I often battle with impatience or am more selfish than I would like to admit.

The world could do with more kindness and patience.

What do you want to be known for?

How to become more patient:

I can only speak from experience, so the top three ways I practise patience.

1. Be grateful: I’ve found I can’t be impatient while I’m being grateful for what I have.
2. Perspective change: Impatience is born out of a selfish view of the world. If I’ve been impatient, I’ve usually been selfish. When I put others first it’s much easier to be patient.
3. I’m not a fire truck: I tell myself, ‘I’m not a fire truck, there is no need to rush.‘ It may sound silly but it works for me. The next time you’re being impatient, try it.

Overall, being patient in decision-making can have many benefits, from better decision quality, and reduced stress to improved relationships.

I know make better decisions, as a husband and father, when I’m patient.

Enjoy the rest of your Wednesday, and I’ll see you next week.

Ty

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P.P.S. The real reason why fire trucks are red.